"SINGLE"

This term seems to cause a bit of confusion for a lot of ppl, so let me clarify for those that think a "single" guy/doll is "sad"...I've been in a "relationship" since I was 14 years old, on & off, consecutive years with a few "exes"...from 14 to ab 20 (6years) and every other "something" I was in was for more than a year. NEVER alone for more than a month. My first 2 years "SINGLE", a few months without "dating"/getting back with "exes", all I've known is being with a guy b/c I thought that's what us dolls are supposed to do...Find a guy & "settle" for a while till the flame dies & the next one sweeps us off our feet. Took me a while before I finally decided to be BY MYSELF. SO FOR ANYONE TO ASSUME SINGLE PPL SIT @ HOME & CRY ALL NITE B/C THEY DON'T HAVE SOMEONE TO BE WITH; UR WRONG!!!!!!!! Especially when most of ur past hurts & every tear u shed was caused by someone u thought u couldn't live without. IDK how much more I can stress that I ENJOY BEING SINGLE...I'm not saying I want this 4ever BUT I do just wanna enjoy this time to get to know myself better, get to know what I really want from a future significant other, get to know where my life will take me...so PLEASE for these few "single" years I choose to have don't label me something I'm NOT. I AM VERY happy with myself right now & I'm still working on being the WOMAN I would LOVE to be! For those of u that don't know there a lot of us guys/dolls that get approached EVERY 5 SECs (I get a phone #, a compliment, a date request, any type of advance from the opposite sex...every sec of every minute of every day) we're "SINGLE" by choice. I 4 one am not one of those ppl to cry single b/c I can't find a "good guy" I've dated the bad & good...MORAL: We know what we are capable of getting we just choose this route b/c it's less stressful...actually DON'T call me "single" anymore call me "SELFISH" b/c I'M NOT READY TO SHARE MYSELF WITH ANYONE....I'M LOVING ME MORE THAN ANYONE ELSE CAN RIGHT A/B NOW!!!!!!-XoXo

Relationship Advice...

I know I'm not the only one who's ever said it but: DON'T I repeat DON'T take relationship advice from ur friends (unless ur in dire need/ if u know they have ur best interest @ heart) Even though I'm single I get tired of seeing long lasting relationships take a turn for the worst just b/c ur "friend" thinks ur guy/doll is "smothering u" (or whatever outlandish reason they make for u to break up). Needless to say its true that when some ppl are single they're miserable & misery sure does love company...think ab it ur in a good relationship, ur both not perfect, u have areas u can definitely work on in order to take it to the next level & then u have a petty fight ab....lets say....the phone bill u tell ur single "miserable" friend (& u can tell they're miserable *relationship wise* b/c they ALWAYS have something negative to say) & they make it seem like ur spouse is controlling u & u need to break it off immediately b/c clearly that won't be "good 4 u in the long run"....NOW ur single & they get into a relationship a week later & they're doing everything they tried to preach to u ab not doing & they've found their soul mate & love of their life in less than a week...while u just dumped ur spouse of 4/5 yrs bc of a stupid phone bill u both had money to pay...MORAL: Don't listen to those "miserable" friends, unless of course like I said, they have ur best interest @ heart...NO GUY/DOLL is perfect & if ur fine with the type of relationship ur in then that's all that matters!!!!!

Why do ppl "LOVE"?

LOVE IS DEFINED as the emotion of strong affection and personal attachment. Love is interpreted many different ways by many different ppl...how u see love is how u interpret it (at least in my opinion). As a child if u see a man hit a woman & she keeps running back ur going to assume that the love of that couple is based on anger just as if u grew up watching a promiscuous woman parading around diff men using sex to keep them then u think her love is based on sex/sexual favors...of course LOVE for all of us is deeper than that...its all of our emotions wrapped into one; Emotions of anger, happiness, sorrow, vulnerability, ego, frustration, fulfillment, hope, doubt, depression, confusion, etc. Theoretically our brains are designed to control our sensory neurons...when u see something that sparks ur senses u react & u take the necessary steps in order for u to gain some sort of goal. Animal/Primal instinct, makes us no different than other species EXCEPT for the fact that humans have more of an ability to interpret, reason & rationalize/ put things into perspective. We've labeled our affection for each other as "like": "I LIKE him/her", then when it becomes more than "like", its "lust", with the ending result SOMETIMES being LOVE, where we go above and beyond for one another bc now we're in "LOVE"....seriously though LOVE can mean anything we want it to & it can be defined as whatever we deem fit. Ppl "LOVE" bc its part of our natural instinct to have affection for one another u "love" ur mom, ur dad, ur brother/sister, bff, etc. It's simply an action given a name. But what if it wasn't called love??? Then we'd all just _______ each other. Now y do ppl "LOVE" so hard???? That's another question...

U gotta let me go baby, u gotta let me go....

After a friend of mine posted a stat on FB "Lettin go when ur heart tells u other wise..............sucks!!" I thought to myself what makes some of us go & what makes others stay; we wanna believe that only "ride or die wifeys" stay down 4 life but is that even really true...what if staying just simply means ur enabling someone to continue to be lazy & dependent or better yet a cheater...it's weird bc if u stay u let the madness continue n then u only have yourself to blame but if u leave ur left alone tryna pick up the pieces of where u left off. & then it becomes am I better off alone or should I go back bc now I'm lonely. I've fought long n hard with this one tryna tell myself that going back can possibly make a rekindled flame bring us back to where we once were but then I get upset @ myself when we start playing the games again...."I HATE U, I LOVE U"...I gave almost EVERY "relationship" I was in a 2nd, 3rd, 4th & 5th chance thinking maybe next time it would work, maybe if I do things this way they'd like that better, maybe if I changed my hair, maybe if I started being nicer, maybe if I went back to being a b*tch again...I finally learned to let go when the bad outweighed the good. This is not only 4 my Dolls bc LOVE is a 2 way street & I know alotta guys get taken advantage of as well. We all have to remember that SOMETIMES our hearts can in fact steer us wrong but then we just need to go back to using our brain...
((THE HEART IS THE STRONGEST MUSCLE IN THE HUMAN BODY & THEREFORE CAUSES US THE MOST PAIN))

Ex Chronicles

My "Ex" told me that he still LOVES me n he's never gonna leave me alone even after the last time he swore he'd leave me alone...still waiting 4 the day they all decide to leave me alone =/...So y do guys still chase after the past after they've moved on??? I'm tired of ppl saying it's the sex bc spending QT together just talking, reminiscing n laffing tryna resurface the "good old days" is more than just the SEX -_-

11 Years & 3 Tatoos Later...

Guys PLEASE don't label every girl a "whore"...& Dolls don't confuse ur bfs "side piece" for a "slut"...there's a reason he can't let her go, she's probably the one he let get away...b4 he settled 4 u

Music...

Click play under the dancing duckie & enjoy the tunes while u browse lol
-XoXo

Reality...

I'm not expecting my blog to blow up or for alotta ppl to comment....I'm hoping though that some ppl can enlighten me on why we make the choices we make while in a relationship...why do some of us love so HARD, while others don't love at all...What is it in us that makes us different besides our backgrounds...My parents separated when I was younger I haven't seen REAL LOVE ever, yet I still manage to fall head over heels & give my all to a guy who's parents have been together for 20years & he can't even say  "Liz I really like u" lolol...I wonder what makes us this way...???

In the beginning

1st blog 4 the nite just cuz I'm tryna figure this all out...