Pick & Choose

So I waited a while to post this one bc I was lost in transition...I'm stumped idk how ppl can say they want to marry a person and then continuously cheat on their alleged "soul mate" with an ex. Why call a guy "hubby" and a doll "wifey" if u don't mean it??? I'm so tired of these titles...when in reality (if u ask me) they mean absolutely NOTHING. I guess some ppl want to be perceived with their significant other as "the perfect couple" but where is ur heart @, bc if ur still cheating ur heart is confused....spend days, nites, weekends hiding from ur real life with ur other hearts desire??? We spend all this time with one person vowing to live happily ever after till death do us part thinking we've found "the one" but still missing that "one". Maybe that's y Swiss left Mashonda for Alicia or y Steve Harvey left his 1st wife for his mistress or y any other guy/doll, for that matter, leaves a 10 year+ relationships, bc they've found that thing in the next person & they've fallen out of love with the previous...Leaving the other to try to pick up broken pieces...kids, home. All u've ever known, diminished, gone, vanished, ERASED; only distant memories of what was b4. I can totally relate to how it feels to think ur "wifey/hubby" for so long & ur spouse tells u its over/ u find out ab another person and now ur "prefect couple" image has shattered. So u've decided "I'm gonna waste my confused yrs with him/her & spend the rest of my life (my years of realization) with who I really wanted to be with but wasn't sure" multiple kids & 1 (or more) divorce(s) later??? That's why I truly believe that the only thing constant in life is in fact CHANGE. I can't help anyone choose I can only continue to be myself & hope that an ex doesn't realize that we're supposed to be together 5/6/7 yrs down the line bc they know that they chose right...& I pray that I don't fall victim to this but like they say "IT'S LIFE & SH*T HAPPENS"